Are you feeling STRESSED?

I received an email today about a lady teaching a class on stress management.  It was rather enlightening!  Paraphrased it goes something like this:

ASK NOT if the glass is 'half empty or half full?'   Instead,  ask how heavy is this glass of water?  And know the absolute weight doesn't matter! It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes. That's the way it is with stress.   If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on. As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden - holding stress longer and better each time practice. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night, pick them up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment. Relax, pick them up later after you've rested. Life is short. Enjoy it and the now 'supposed' stress that you've conquered!"

When You Ask For Help...

Did you ever stop to think that when you have the courage to ask someone for help it may in turn help them too?

Last night, my phone rang.  Even though it was late at night I felt it was important that I take the call.  A young woman had seen my website http://www.healingbeginswithin.net/ and was asking for a session.  I immediately sensed she was having a really hard time and from the bottom of my heart with the same concern I have for my own children I asked her, "Are you okay?"  She responded in a now tearful voice, "I'm not doing too good right now".  I so felt her pain and so wanted to help.  Second to being a mother and wife I knew this was why I was here...to help others.  I listened to her tell her story that is unfortunately all too common for so many.  She was newly married, had a young child, and now was in the midst of a painful separation.  The exact details are not what I want to share, however, what she was feeling and the thoughts and emotions she was feeling are important and need to be shared.  She felt very sad, alone and afraid.  Her heart ached.  I understand.  Many of us understand and can relate.  I let her know many important things.  First of all, as human beings we all make mistakes.  As result of those mistakes we gain experience.  And more importantly as result of the experiences we gain knowledge.  This knowledge then in turn results in wisdom.  Wisdom  so as to enable us to love better, give better, live better and enjoy this amazing experience we call life!  I remind us all, that's why we are here!  To live and learn and witness one another heal.  Her last words to me were, "Thank you so much, I feel so much better!"  And I want her to know she made me feel good too!  Whenever, we extend love and our heart to others the result is wonderful.  So...please never be too afraid to ask for help, because when you do, don't be surprised if you end up helping somenone else too!

Healing Begins Within: Let's Talk About Understanding

Healing Begins Within: Let's Talk About Understanding: "While out for dinner one evening I met some wonderful people visiting for the weekend while attending a convention in honor of the Vete..."

Let's Talk About Understanding

While out for dinner one evening I met some wonderful people visiting for the weekend while attending a convention in honor of the Veterans who served in WWII.  I thanked the gentleman for his service to this country, adding that due to him and many others who have served and currently serve, we enjoy freedom of religion and speech in this country.  He began to reminisce about what a confusing time it was for our country during WWII.  His wife lovingly reassured him that he personally had done his best to support our country and how we are all so thankful for that. 

Any time there is an attack and a corresponding defense, the result is sometimes war! Whether it is among nations or among one another in our personal relationships.  And what is missing? Understanding.  When was the first time you felt anger? Can you remember as a child? Visit that time and now look at the situation with wiser and more understanding eyes.  Now travel forward quickly to the last time you remember defending yourself after a  verbal attack from someone you knew, (was it just yesterday?) can you respond in your mind with understanding as opposed to defense?  Look at the situation from all perspectives and feel compassion. Can you forgive?  When understanding is our goal in any given situation, the result is no longer war, but peace.  No longer is there fighting, instead, there is cooperation.

We continued to talk about people and life and why some manage well during difficult times and others do not.  Their son who was also traveling with them mentioned a friend of his who had lost his wife many years ago and was still suffering from the loss and unable to move forward and enjoy his life.  I explained that in the work I do I've learned there are often 'blocks' and ‘beliefs’ within ourselves on many  levels that may prevent us from doing so.  Did you know that Science is now merging with Spirituality and thus has a better understanding about our human bodies and minds and has discovered that healing takes place on many levels, not just emotional and physical alone? Often our ‘beliefs’ that reside within us may not allow us to move forward in our healing! Removing these disenabling beliefs and replacing them with loving and healthy beliefs  results in a ‘shift’ enabling an individual to move from grief to  joy, from low self-esteem to healthy confidence, from a place of lack and failure, to a place of fulfillment and prosperity. 

Thank you Ed and Fran for sharing time with me at dinner and reminding me of the blessings we enjoy as result of living in a country of religious freedom; because it means so much more that that…it also means Spiritual Freedom and the opportunity to evolve.  It means we understand that our failures are not really failures, they are lessons learned!

Healing Begins Within: I woke up thinking "I am a failure as a mom..."

Healing Begins Within: I woke up thinking "I am a failure as a mom...": "One morning I woke up thinking 'I am a failure as a mom and a homemaker'. Needless to say I was behind in my housework and the kids h..."

I woke up thinking "I am a failure as a mom..."

One morning I woke up thinking 'I am a failure as a mom and a homemaker'.  Needless to say I was behind in my housework and the kids had been fussing and I was tired, but I know I am not alone and I quickly worked through this overwhelming feeling and I'd like to share with you how...

Most of us feel worry, fear, self doubt, low self-worth and stress. However, did you ever stop to think how much better you would feel if you didn't constantly feel these types emotions and if you did not regularly think these kinds of thoughts? Wouldn't it be much more enjoyable if you experienced daily optimism, confidence, joy, happiness and peace? Many believe the normal mental and emotional state of being is one of being 'stressed out', 'maxed out' or 'just getting by'.  But you can make a dramatic change in your mental state in just a few minutes.

Take a moment to visualize exactly how you ‘feel’ while on your current path that you are on, note all the thoughts you experience on a daily basis and your emotional ‘climate’.   Do your feelings include fear, worry, stress, dissatisfaction, lack of excitement, depression or frustration with oneself and others?  If these are any of your present daily thoughts imagine holding them in the palm of your hand and see how that feels, observe them sitting there.  Now simply look at your other hand and imagine feelings of joy, satisfaction, optimism, passion, hope and love in that hand.  These thoughts feel better don’t they?  Thoughts of believing you can be and do whatever it is you desire to do.  Believing and feeling every day, fulfilled, motivated, full of energy and happiness.  Feeling fully focused, while fulfilling your purpose for being here.  Feelings bursts of energy as you go about your day, seeing it unfold exactly as you had ‘thought’ it out, just as you believed it would.

Walking along your path along with the associated feelings is a result of the thoughts we think, and the resulting actions we take.  So therefore, visualize or ‘ACTUALIZE’ as I prefer to say a new path…if the one you are on right now  doesn’t feel good, then ‘actualize’ a different one…and that starts with believing and thinking the thoughts that line up with your dreams and desires!

Change paths, and walk along a path that is healthy for your soul.  At the essence of every soul is desire and it pushes us forward enabling us to grow and evolve.  What are your desires, what are you passionate about?  This is the essence of your very spirit and being.

Remember, even if you do not yet understand HOW or WHEN you will accomplish your goals, your dreams and desires, that’s okay!  Because if you know the WHY you have taken the necessary FIRST STEP and the rest will more easily follow.

Don’t forget, we are here for the purpose to love, learn and witness one another heal.

Tell me if you have experienced discouragement also and how you got out of it, I’d love to hear from you!

 

Yes, he's real and not a wind up toy and he left me a few gifts on the carpet today when I wasn't looking which I graciously disposed of, after first shouting out "Oh No!" However, I am grateful he is healthy and putting on weight.  It's like having a new baby again and constantly changing diapers however, not as often.  Both my children have reached the age where they no longer need me as much as they once did and I just couldn't handle not having a little one around anymore so I got Micky, our little puppy.  I haven't had a dog since I was 15 years old.  I'm in my 40's now.  Why did I wait so long?  Well, when I was born our family dog then was only a puppy so I grew up with him.  When he got run over by a car it broke a part of my heart and I just couldn't attach to another dog again.  However, I am glad I finally did.  Micky now has a good home and I have someone who needs a 'mommy' again.  Especially, since my son recently said, 'Mom, why do you treat me like a baby still?'  Well, it's something I will continue to work on!  We all have probably learned at one time or another that when you care for someone else or even an animal's needs it helps us feel better, and just plain happy!  So make it your goal today to do something for someone else or something else and pay attention to how it makes you feel!  Why not?!  Remember, we are all here on this earth to witness one another learn, love and heal.  Try it and let me know how it made you feel!